Box? What Box? I have a Box?
With special guest: David Cazeres
Box? What box? I have a box?
Have you ever thought about the framework you've created for yourself? The structure that dictates your desires, your likes, your dislikes? Why you choose what you choose; everything from friends to movies? Why do you select the clothes you wear? Was there an assumption that you would or wouldn't go to college? Was there an expectation
regarding your career choice? If so, who set that expectation? When selecting a spouse, did degree or career choice factor into your decision? Was pedigree important? How and why do these expectations get established? With every life decision we make, our box is created. Our box of labels that for so many of us, create our identities. It starts with maintaining the labels established in childhood. Everything from being told we're "funny" or "lazy" or "flaky". We tend to live up to the expectations placed on us.
Recently, a friend and I were discussing where she may have ended up had she taken a scholarship to a renowned art school. Her parents dissuaded her, fearing that if she chose her passion in art as a career, she wouldn't be able to feed herself. My friend chose the safe path (albeit a good one) that led her to a box she isn't entirely satisfied with. She's now wondering if she can change careers mid-life. Why not? Why does she have to keep a box that doesn't fit? What would happen if she did something that truly made her happy? What would happen if her road forked?
This brings me to this week's guest: David Cazares. He's actually the reason I even began contemplating this topic. I've known David for almost 30 years; we've sort of grown up together. He and my brother Kelley, were college roommates and remain close to this day. I thought I knew David. I've always really enjoyed hanging out at parties and the occasional family get togethers. I can now see how incredibly 2-dimensional the box (or identity) I created for him was: a single, successful lawyer from south Texas. Never, in a thousand years would any of us (David included) see the incredible bend his life-path was about to take. Hint: David has now starred in two films; one you can rent at your local Redbox or purchase at Walmart, and another that will soon wrap up filming. Not only this, he's a level 2 Reiki practitioner, learning (in my book, has mastered) classical piano, and is quickly becoming fluent in Russian. He's incredible!
Tiffanie and I had a blast interviewing David. Between his courtroom/mediation commitments, and nighttime filming schedule, it was nearly impossible to get him in the studio so we resorted to talking via phone. This was so much fun that we decided to add an occasional "What's David Doing" segment. (I haven't even touched on his blossoming spiritual gifts) I hope David inspires you to look outside your box and say "yes" to the next fork in your road!