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Answer:  The human race fights because the illusion of separation cuts us off from one another. When separated, we can understand each other only through our limited bank of knowledge. We look back on our own experiences to make sense of someone's actions. This is rather subjective. The following is a simple example:

You're at the market picking up cupcakes for your child's school party. Your client ran late, causing your meeting to run over. You know your sweet, little one will be watching the classroom door, eagerly awaiting your arrival. You imagine his disappointment each time the door opens and another mother walks in. You're panicked because the party started 2 minutes ago. In a rush, you grab the cupcakes, run to the checkout line only to get behind the oldest, slowest, chattiest human EVER! You curse your choice of lines.

At some point, you convince yourself this "old coot" is doing this just to annoy you. You're sure he's somehow picked up on the fact that you are in a major hurry and has decided to tell the checker the story about his family gathering of the previous week. Slow Talker, you think to yourself.... slow. Freaking. Talker.

By this point you can just imagine your baby boy is feeling like you don't care about him as much as the other mothers must care about their kids. You're upset with your client. You’re upset with the checker and you're downright PISSED OFF at this little, old man. Why in the world did you decide to go back to work?!?!!?  Being cut off from each other, there's no way of knowing "the rest of the story" (thank you Paul Harvey).

If we had the ability to peer into this other, sweet soul we would know that each week, this is one of only a few outings he goes on. We would know that he makes out his list, irons his clothes, puts on his hat and drives himself to the market. We would know that each week for 15 years, he and his lovely bride would go to lunch then go to the market. We would know that only a few months ago, his sweet wife passed away. We would know that this seemingly small human interaction is so very needed for this sweet man.

If the human race was connected, if we knew "the rest of the story", most likely we would be kinder, softer, sweeter with each other. It's only in these moments of isolation, irritation, stress, pain, and anger that we allow ourselves to lash out at each other. We don't realize the hurt and pain we cause, thus perpetuating the dark, downward spiral.

The example I gave was one that I think most of us can relate to. This is an everyday type of situation with not much more than an irritant at play. On a larger scale, we have an us versus them mentality that merely feeds the seemingly separate nature of mankind. The bi-partisan elections coming in 2016 reflect a strong tendency we have to separate within the country and against other countries.

I decided to watch the Republican debates with my three young-ish children. At one point, my youngest began crying, saying, “I'm scared. THEY say the ‘enemy is already here and WWIII has already begun’". Based on the potential leader of our country, we are supposed to detest the "bad guys", and cheer on this potential future president as he proposes that we "blow these guys off the map".

This is where fear and disconnectedness serve the powers that be. Man, I get it. I found myself hoping to feel safe (not realizing it was the same powers that be that scared the tar out of my kids to begin with). Can we really kill people we'd otherwise have a beer with? Can we kill another mother's son? Can we wish to kill a playmate's father?

Again, I get it. I get that it's not this simple. When we're cut off from each other and left to draw from external sources, it's much easier to succumb to fear and frustration, thus perpetuating the  "us and them" mentality. The illusion of separation feeds the fear of being disconnected, but the truth is we are all connected.

The desire for connection is so incredibly pervasive in our society, we're blinded by it. They tell us, If we were "enough;" smart enough, thin enough, pretty enough, rich enough, we'd have the "connectedness" we desire. The marketing machines’ wheels are greased by this single desire: connectedness. Thing is, our disconnectedness is simply an illusion, a really super duper strong illusion.

I have some great news! Connectedness is easy:

Well, kinda. It takes a little reconditioning (ok, a lot). All you have to do is rev up your heart (center, area, chakra... You pick the terminology). Try this: imagine a homeless person. What's the first thing that comes to mind? Maybe drugs? Maybe mental illness?

Now: (Connectedness)

Think of this person as a child. Little boy. Think of him making life choices. Think of him holding his first-born child. Now, go back to the image of him as a homeless person. Do you feel a tiny bit of compassion? That, my friend, is recognizing the truth of the connection.


By: Kerry Walker

 


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Erica Johnson
06/30/2016 8:03am

I agree with your article 100%. But still there is more. I don't think everyone getting along on this planet is possible because the planet is dealing with low level souls who are struggling and learning. If the planet was covered with high level souls, it would be possible. But not everyone is thinking the same way. Some people don't have the capacity to feel and understand the concept that we're One. So, I think it's important to keep putting out the word, and teaching those who are beginning to understand how true your words are, and attempt to practice that awareness (such as realizing in the moment that the old fart in line actually needs compassion). That still usually follows our knee jerk reactions in the moment, but we find it. Imagine if you're completely unaware? So no, I don't think it's possible, but we need to keep plugging in.

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Tiffanie
10/07/2016 2:27pm

Erica, thank you for your beautiful and thoughtful reply! Yes, having patience and compassion for younger souls is part of our job! We are all in this together, and are way more alike than we are different. Thank you for being a beautiful life that you are! Keep on shining on!!

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07/19/2016 12:45am

I really liked your article. I think you delivered your message quite clearly and effectively. The Us Vs. Them mentality definitely exists. And this has been the cause of much fear and disconnectedness. In situations such as the one mentioned, we tend to fail to recognize the story behind the person, thus allowing us to become inconsiderate and uncompassionate.

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Tiffanie
10/07/2016 2:28pm

Yes, well said. Thank you for taking the time to write in. We appreciate your feedback very much.

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10/14/2016 9:05pm

It is a very sad reality and of course fears and disconnectedness are inevitable. Human race are tend to be bad or good and that peace on earth could be possible or impossible. As much as I agree with you, fears and worries can not be avoided.We have to educate our younger generations and everyone as a whole. Having this kind of blog is worth to share for everybody to learn from it and of awareness as well. I hope selfishness and greed won't eat us and surely war and violence is not the answer to have peace and freedom. We need God and seek divine intervention for all the things and for world peace and humanity! Thank you for your thoughts and for sharing it here.

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